What is the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “failure”?
Do you cringe? Do you see yourself bombing a major exam in school? or getting caught doing something wrong? or causing an accident in traffic? or putting someone’s life in danger?
Here’s a news flash. Everyone fails from time to time, but they themselves are not failures. Failure is an event, an occurrence, a happening, and NOT a person. We do as a society tend to use the word “failure” for folks who make bad choices in life, like using illegal substances or robbing a convenient store, etc. Losers, right? But these people have the ability and choice to turn their lives around. No matter what age, background, status, you have the option to set goals and work towards achieving them.
Don’t give up on yourself or others. It would be easy to settle for less in Life. To just throw in the towel and give up. But this Life was meant to be tough. A lump of coal is nothing until it is put under immense pressure and stress over time to become a beautiful gem.
Most of us have one thing or skill we are really good at. I bet if you were to sit down and ponder, you would find at least 3-5 things or skills you are somewhat good at. This is a hint to which path you should be on in Life’s journey.
Failure equals learning. Keep track of your mistakes, learn from them, then move on. Keep it simple.
Keep your eye on the prize and realize that each failure and set back is a step towards that goal. Keep your goals big, so that even in the trenches of your failings you can still look up and see where it is that you are going.
Do not be afraid to ask for help.
I have learned a good word to get back up on you feet after a failure from former Navy SEAL Jocko Willink. That word is “Good”.
Didn’t get that job offer? Good.
Go after the next interview.
Didn’t get that promotion? Good.
More time to get better and learn for the next promotion window.
Failed at your business? Good.
Figure out what went wrong. Learn from it and start over.
You failed at your mission objective? Good. Find the lessons learned, teach your fellow teammates, then move on.
Bottom line. If your are still breathing, it means you still have some Life left in you. So get up, dust off, reload, recalibrate, reENGAGE, and go back out on the attack.